Change is defined as “an act or process through which something becomes different”. Change happens and things are not as they used to be. The ground beneath shifts a bit and your whole world is instantly transformed and looks completely different. There is no turning back and you can’t really do anything about it. Feels like almost as if you’re stuck and the future is looking at you in the eyes and you’re not sure whether you like what you see or not.
Most of the time you think that the big changes – the ones that transform your life – happen slowly. In reality, the serious stuff happens in an instant. All it takes is one moment and one person to change your life forever. One moment that forces you to rethink everything you know and one person to alter your point of view, colour your thinking, shift your perspective and make you see what you’ve lost.
Change is a funny thing, don’t you think?
Nobody likes change and it is normal to resist and fight it. At the end of the day, who wants to change the stable routine and the comfort of the old habits? As Stephen R. Covey explains in his book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People “people can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside them. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value”.
The reality is that you don’t resist doing something new or different — in other words, you don’t resist change. You resist doing what you or others think is wrong. But, who gets to determine what is right or wrong? Because when it’s real, you just can’t resist change and walk away.
Ancient Greek Heraklitus said that “change is the only constant thing”. How you experience and react to it… that is up you. You can choose to stand there trembling waiting for the something to happen or you can just step forward into the unknown thinking that it will be brilliant. It can feel like death or like a second chance in life. One thing is certain… when you don’t choose change, change chooses you.
Change is a funny thing…