“Are you happy?” When was the last time you asked someone this question? Why do we forget to ask this question? Or better why do we avoid asking it?
First of all it is important to know what happiness is. According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, it is “the state of well-being and contentment”. Ancient Greek Philosopher Aristotle asks “what is this goal that is an end-in-itself?” and his answer to this is happiness.
Our happiness can be affected by such factors as our material circumstances, our place in society, and even our looks. If you look at it the way Eckhart Tolledescribes it in his book Stillness Speaks “your unhappiness ultimately arises not from circumstances of your life but from the conditioning of your mind”.
They usually say that happiness can be found in the little things. True, but real happiness is not in the accumulation of anything tangible. Dale Carnegie stated in his book How To Win Friends And Influence People“it isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it”. I personally feel that happiness can be found in individual progress and in the process of finding purpose beyond oneself.
Achieving happiness typically involves times of considerable discomfort, and as they say things are a bit sour before they taste sweet. Carl Jung said “the word happiness would lose its meaning if it was not balanced by sadness”.
We all can find so many different definitions of hapiness in the dictionary, but what is important is to understand what it is and means to us personally. Being happy is a choice and no matter what the choice is always ours.
Are you happy?